The sex toy industry spent a long time designing for two people: straight men and women. A pink box or a black box. Pick one. Now, it’s finally catching up with the reality that there’s a whole spectrum of LGBTQ+ people out there that have their own desires, wants, and preferences.
However, the conversation about what "inclusive" actually means is still ongoing. The answer isn’t just making the packaging rainbow themed and calling it a day. It's about products designed around anatomy and sensation of sexual encounters between different bodies and different kinds of sex.
A LELO survey from 2023 found that over 40% of LGBTQ+ respondents felt the mainstream toy market didn't represent their needs. Even though there are dildos and toys catering to some, it's still a niche within a niche, and the options are limited.
Good inclusive design focuses on what a toy does, not who it's "for." A wand massager delivers broad vibration to any external erogenous zone on any body. A bullet vibrator works for targeted stimulation anywhere. A strap-on harness set isn't limited to one orientation. It’s possible to make the look, feel, and packaging all work together to celebrate all kinds of sex with all kinds of bodies and preferences.
Of course, body-safe materials are non-negotiable regardless of who you are. Look for medical-grade silicone, stainless steel, or glass. Skip anything labeled "jelly" or "PVC" unless you know what you’re looking for.
• b-Vibe Beginners Strap-On Harness Set with 5 in. Silicone Dildo Peg, $61. Fully adjustable straps for a wide range of body sizes. Designed for beginners, works for lesbian couples, pegging, or anyone trying strap-on play for the first time.
• Adam & Eve Peak Wand Massager, $129. Full-sized rechargeable wand with a flexible head. Works on any body, any erogenous zone. Very versatile.
• Lovense Lush 4 Bluetooth Remote-Controlled Egg Vibrator, $149. App-controlled from any distance. A creative option for long-distance couples, including queer couples navigating smaller dating pools.
• Intimate Earth Bliss Anal Relaxing Water-Based Glide, $5. Anal play is popular across all genders and orientations. This water-based formula uses natural relaxants like clove. Compatible with all toy materials and condoms.
