June is pride month, a time for celebration of sexualities of all stripes. While the visible way to celebrate is on the streets and in the parade, there’s another way people can be proud of their sexuality too.
We have so many hang-ups in the bedroom, from how we look to what we’re unashamed to do. Pride month is the perfect opportunity to take back a bit of control, re-examining the rules of the bedroom we set for ourselves. Intimacy reveals itself in many forms, but you need to stop running someone else’s script.
Most of us inherited a default for what intimacy is supposed to look like. Who starts? Who's on top? What counts as the main event and what’s ‘just foreplay.’ It’s time to throw that out the window. ‘The script’ came from a lot of people who didn’t spend a lot of time figuring out what works best for everyone in the bedroom.
Self-expression in bed is the same skill as self-expression anywhere else. Name what you want and listen to your partner. Stay curious instead of defensive. None of that's queer-specific. But it is a great month to practice opening yourself up to new things.
Je Joue Midnight Magic Couples Kit, $129. Four pieces in a box. The Mio cock ring and Duet bullet are the heavy lifters, both running Je Joue's low-frequency motor for low frequency deep stimulation. The feather tickler and rose bath melt give you the means for a perfect evening.
ROMP Rose 2.0, $66. The next version of ROMP's pleasure-air suction toy. Usable for many types and anatomies, it’s the kind of toy people pass along to friends because once you try it you won’t want to get back.
Stockroom Essentials Leather Wrapped Spanking Paddle, $59. Stockroom has been making this kind of gear longer than most. Light kink without the whole kit and kaboodle, makes for a good starting point. Good for one of those evenings where you’re ready to try something a little more risqué.
Eye of Love Romantic Attract Her Pheromone Gift Set, $49. A pheromone fragrance set built around the romance line. Self-expression doesn't always mean toys. Sometimes it's showing up to the date already feeling like yourself.
Just because there’s a special month doesn’t mean your pleasure has to stop when the rainbow flags come down. Continue the spirit of exploration and raise your flag all year round.
