A genuinely inclusive toy isn’t about gendered expectations of pleasure, or specific body types or abilities. It’s made to help all kinds of people and bodies, with materials that work with the human body and are durable and safe. Since the FDA doesn’t regulate sex toys rigorously, it’s important to verify what you’re getting. Good choices for this are medical-grade silicone, stainless steel, and borosilicate glass. But there are a variety of good materials out there.
The Picks
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Banana Pants Kissi Hot Pink, $52.50. A fabric harness base designed for strap-on play, designed to fit more body types than the standard nylon-and-buckle kit. Banana Pants gets recommended in queer circles because the fit's actually comfortable for extended wear.
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Dame Aer Suction Toy Periwinkle, $136. Dame is one of the few brands in the space designed and built by women, and the Aer is their soft-suction air-pulse toy. Works on the clitoris, nipples, or anywhere you want focused suction.
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Lovense Dolce Bluetooth Adjustable Dual Vibrator, $171. App-controlled, Bluetooth, adjustable fit so it actually stays in place. Lovense built their whole reputation on remote and long-distance play, which has made their gear a staple for long distance couples.
b-Vibe Flexible Silicone Anal Douche Black, $41. Important accessory for anal play, it works for everyone’s needs without a fuss. Medical-grade silicone, flexible neck, easy to clean. b-Vibe is the brand to trust here.
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Wicked Simply Timeless Silicone Lube 4 oz., $46. Silicone-based lube lasts longer than water-based and doesn't dry out. The trade-off is it's not compatible with silicone, so save it for skin-on-skin or glass and steel toys.
Shop by Function, Not Category
Brick-and-mortar stores still organize by gender, which makes shopping awkward if that’s not your speed. Online retailers can be a bit better, with more definition around function, body part, or play type, at least with sorting filters. Look for a dedicated LGBTQ+ Friendly collection too and then cross-reference and pick what works.



